Update to the punching bag post! We have resolved our conflict after spending several days processing what we were feeling and figuring out what we needed to happen for resolution. (or in other words - we both fumed and stewed for several days). Well actually the truth is - hubby did more of the fuming and stewing this time. I had a rather quick recovery - thank you very much! Must have been because I beat that punching bag to death and felt so much better after. lol On Saturday we went on a long hike which ended up being over 8 miles, we got lost and then ended up calling our daughter to come rescue us - but that is another story. Anyways - during our long walk, we were able to calmly talk this latest issue out and find resolution that is satisfactory to both of us. (or in other words - he admitted he was wrong and I was right! lol) (Actually not the case - but I just liked saying it)
Bottom line is our marriage is better off than before. This conflict has brought us closer together and helped us to understand each other a little better. We have identified some areas of improvement that we both have to work on - mainly communication!
Unfortunately there was one side drawback for my husband. This episode has brought him out of denial land and made my disease more real to him. In a way I am saddened by that - but I know it had to happen eventually. It has forced us both to look at some differences in our expectations for the future and helped us to understand that we both will have some compromising to do. Our expectations are going to have to be a little more flexible as we figure out what works and what doesn't.
So we move forward in this learning journey - together, hand in hand as we walk towards the sunset! (whatever!!! lol)
I am keeping the punching bag around just in case.
Oh gosh, I got so many LOLs out of that post! Now I feel bad because you were talking about something serious!! Shame on you CM for making me laugh so.
ReplyDeleteBut I'm glad you guys are working things out. Yes, it's good to have realistic expectations of each other. Just don't forget to have really big expectations of God! He can do greater things than you dare imagine or ask for!
No shame here - I am glad I made you laugh. We are actually at a point where we can laugh now too! :)
ReplyDeleteThanks for the reminder about God. It's good advice and I hope you are also following it! ;P